So you want to learn to Sext? And you really want to be good at it?
My name is Stephen and I am a huge fan of using text messaging to make the opposite sex obsessed with me!
Sexting and texting is really amazing it can get you so much more attention then you would ever expect in a normal conversation. I have been amazed at how powerful a simple flirty message can grab someone’s attention and turn their interest on like mad.
But what is sexting?
The Wikipedia says:
Sexting – is the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photographs, primarily between mobile phones.
The Urban dictionary says:
Sexting – the act of text messaging someone in the hopes of having a sexual encounter with them later; initially casual, transitioning into highly suggestive and even sexually explicit
I would argue that the Urban dictionary is more accurate, and if so, what is the point of sexting? To flirt and possibly have sex and/or relationship with the other person.
So… is sending someone a close up of your privates a good idea? Will that lead to sex? If you are a guy, no… if you are a girl, maybe… but it will only be one night.
What about a sexually suggestive sext?
“I really want a Sunday, but I’m on a diet. Can I pour chocolate all over you and top you off with the cherry?”
CHEEEZZYY… Unless you are 15, no girl or guy is going to respond to something like this.
If you really want a girl or guy to pay attention to you and possibly sleep with you being sexually explicit is honestly not a good idea. If you are already sleeping with them I say go for it! but otherwise no, make sure your sexting is flirty, funny, but only mildly sexual.
When I first started at this I did a little googling the subject and here are some sexting examples I found:
- “Hey baby u r so delicious.” – What??? Now she is thinking, what exactly does he want to eat??? And inevitably she will be turned off.
- “Your wardrobe needs to be updated. How about trying me on?” – Not bad but it is a line and lines are not witty, girls and guys are attracted to wit not canned responses.
- “I couldn’t stop staring at your big, luscious, tempting, t-t-t-teeth. You have such a beautiful smile.” – This is bound to get you punched via text
- “After our date tonight, nothing can stop me from living my dream with you” – Vomit… if sent to a girl she will think you are a stalker, if sent to a guy he will run screaming.
- “Want to be the nude model for my art project? The pay isn’t great, but we can discuss the perks.” – not too bad but still a canned line.
- “Forget M&Ms. I melt in your hands.” – Is this line still around!? I thought it died about the time ET came out?
- “Can you be my full time job?” – Creepy, and a bit lame.
I hate to say it but 90% of these are just stupid. They are lines, canned, overly sexual and WON’T get you the results you want.
So what is wrong with typical sexting? Well if you are a guy, you are most likely going to set of a girls fear response and she will shut down. Girls don’t like to be treated as if they only have one thing to offer you and sexting clearly is communicating only one thing.
If you are a girl sexting a guy, he is only going to respond one way. Drop you in the sex only category and you might have a one night with him (possibly two if you are hot) Guys are pretty simple when it comes to women, they want to sleep with all of them and you will never be taken seriously if put such a low value on your vag.
What is the correct way to sext someone???
Let me tell you what true sexting is. Once again let me remind you of the objective, to get the girl or guy interested in you and possibly have sex/relationship.
And one more time… Guys! Girls don’t sleep with guys that are only looking for sex. Girls! Guys don’t take girls seriously that pretend they only want sex.
First and most important tool BANTER! This is what sexting is really about. Turning people on with your brain, not a ten year old line stolen from an 80’s movie.
Sexting with banter can be broken down in so many ways but lets keep it simple and stick with being playful and funny. Believe it or not, this strategy, while seeming simple will blow the doors off any any sexting one-liner. This is true sexting with real results. Take a look at this interaction.
Her: So I haven’t heard from you in a while
Me: Can’t stop thinking about me huh?
Her: You wish, something smelled bad in the trash and I thought of you
Me: Not surprised, you are a pretty filthy girl
Her: Only in bed
Me: Yeah maybe we will have another shot at that sometime. (If you are lucky)
Her: I wanna be lucky!
Me: I used to have a dog named lucky, If you want… I still have his collar
Her: Ruff Ruff!!!
Me: I think I might have to keep you away from the cat box
Her: ROLFL, shut up! That is so gross! My dog does that all the time.
Me: Okay, lucky the dog. Beg for me and I will see you on Saturday
Her: Already on my knees
Damn… that was great! And do you see how he dropped in a little bit of sexuality but not too much. He waited for her to initiate sex talk before he continued with it and when she did he didn’t take it too far.
Here is another one that uses excellent sexting banter to build attraction.
Her: Why do you always date Asian girls?
Me: What, you don’t know?
Her: Is it because they are submissive?
Me: No silly, it is all about the plumbing
Me: They have small plumbing and I… well, you know…
Her: HA!! LOL are you saying you have a small dick???
Me: Like a baby, even my nuts are like pistachios
Her: LOL, killing me! You are kidding right?
Me: Why are you so obsessed with my penis?
Her: Shut up, you brought it up!
Me: I would prefer if you brought it up. You have small hands right?
Her: Hahahaha, Like a babies!
Once again a little bit sexual but not to much, he introduces this in a funny way that is disarming because it is self deprecating. Anytime you bag on yourself, you open up her comfort.
Got good sexting examples? Please leave a reply.